Husband and wife shouting, screaming, arguing and fighting in front of the kids is very bad. It affects their mental health and academic performance.
I know it is not easy to spend the rest of your life with your husband without having misunderstanding, which might lead to a serious argument but, ones the kids are around, try as much as possible to avoid argument with your spouse.
Many people are abusive in their marriages today because, they learned it from their parents and it has automatically become a culture in that family and it keeps on recycling from generation to generation. Let Such abuse stop in your own generation in Jesus name, Amen.
Parental fight and quarell affects the academic performance of the child. Yes, it does. When I was serving, there is one particular girl whom I noticed in the classroom in Jss1, this girl doesn't pay attention to what you as the teacher is saying, even to stand up and tell you her name is trouble. She doesn't do assignment.
I complained about her in the staff room. THIS is when I know that those parading themselves as teachers are untrained. Those that didn't pass through the education department but jumped into the classroom, either by connection or by crook means.
Those teachers said they noticed it too. Others said they're sure she is possess ðð.
They keep on flogging this girl in the staff room, different punishment and co. I told myself that if I leave this school without knowing why this girl is behaving this way, it means i didn't render my NYSC service well.
I noticed that the girl loves Abacha, she can eat ehh but, can't do any academic work. Are you blaming her? Lol, don't, depression can lead a child or even adult to eating too much but, this would be a topic for another day.
I bought this girl Abacha and told her to eat, she finished eating, I asked her why do you miss doing your assignment, you don't copy note, nothing. I asked her, what do you want to be when you grow, I want to be a doctor, this came out from her tiny voice, so Loud and clear.
I asked her, do you think you can become a doctor without doing anything in the class?
This girl jumped down from her seat and hugged me so tight and started crying. I didn't become afraid because, I did education psychology, I don't need a prophet to tell me the girl is passing through some emotional trauma.
I held her so tight and I allowed her to just cry and pour out her emotion. After some minutes of crying, she told me, teacher Chiagozie, my father and mother always fight at home, I want to run away from home. I don't like them again ð³ð³ð³. E shock me.
I lost balanced on what to do but I asked her, is this why you don't do your assignment? You don't answer question in the class. She said she is always thinking about home, what will happen at home again if she goes back after school. I don't like that house again.
ðð. That home has become a hell for that little child. I collected her mother's number, called her, invited her to school. We talked, other teachers don't even know. I didn't tell them. I just Said let me try to solve this problem.
After telling her mother what her child said, she started crying. I collected her husband's number too, called him, told him everything on phone and he promised to build a peaceful home.
Weeks later, I started seeing changes in the girl's performance. I told myself, you have done a nice job, if this, is the only thing you achieved in this NYSC journey.
So, parents, let's stop fighting in front of our kids, it affects them mentally, check the picture below ðð. So many things going on, in the child's head as the parents are busy screaming.
May God help us build a peaceful home.